On Thursday night, I did my weekly segment on Philadelphia’s 96.1 FM/ 900 AM W.U.R.D. show The Lounge. I talked to listeners about The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle. I spoke about letting go of attachment and doing what you can where you are with what you have. I referenced Psychologist Carl Jung, compared reacting vs. responding and letting go of dependency and fear. Listen Below and Share!
Happy Sunday Everyone! The end of last week’s adventures and the beginning of this week’s! Today, after a very exhausting week, I spent time in the studio talking to my listeners about having the will and want to give energy to life’s many challenges. I also discussed the importance of knowing what you deserve in life and not letting exhaustion, self-esteem, or fear get in the way of you living a life you love. Listen below.
Travel + Life Tip #12: If you don’t go out and search, you’ll never find what you’re looking for.
Life is a complicated mixture of chance and choice. Sometimes we’re fortunate enough to be granted opportunities we didn’t ask for, and other times things turn out to be grander than we expected. However, more often than not, the experiences that we have are the ones that we create for ourselves. We would live in a pretty interesting world if everything we dreamed of just found its way to our reality, but an even more interesting world is the one we do live in where instead of being confined to our thoughts and dreams, we’re given the choice to make what we want out of them. It is that choice and that control which gives us true power. The kind of power that allows us to love unconditionally, become masters of skills and climb to the top of mountains. That power, is about the choice to go in search of what you are looking for, whether that be a deeper knowledge of purpose and peace, or humility and happiness. With that power we can do extraordinary things. Extraordinary things that one would never experience if he/she didn’t make the choice to do so. In order to see the world around you, you must choose to go in search of what you are looking for. You can’t concern yourself with leaving others behind, for they also have a choice to stay or go. You can’t concentrate on your lack of knowledge about what is ahead of you, for you will find that some things you can only learn through discovery. Most importantly, you can’t be afraid that you don’t have what you need for the journey, whether it be big or small. Most times you don’t truly know what you need until you find a way to do without it, and you will always bring along something that you will eventually let go of before your journey is complete. The real challenge is choice. The choice to stop at dreaming, or stop at reality. The choice to stay, or go out in search of what you are looking for. #sarahnsays
Sarahn Says – Today more or less taught me the value of time. I mean it’s Day 39! The whole process at many times seemed like it was going by so slow. But then before I knew it, today had arrived. The last day before the last day. It’s both the beginning of the end and the end of the beginning. While Day 39 is not the long awaited “Day 40” it holds just as much value and truth – choices to be chosen, mistakes to be made, lessons to be learned. Today I was reminded that everyone has his or her own individual struggles. While someone’s life might appear to be easier or better than yours, its not. Make it your goal to be aware of your personal trials and tribulations and not be afraid to share them with others. You might feel like you don’t have time for other peoples problems, and that they don’t have time for yours. You might be reluctant to share in fear of judgment or misunderstanding. However, you will find that sharing with other people helps both you and them. For while you are being reminded that you are not alone, you are also remembering to be grateful for what you do have and what problems you do not face. As well, you are encouraging someone else to be grateful and reminding them that they are not alone either. #sarahnsays
“I remember trying to do all that I could in my power to get a guy back. Or maybe I should say get his affection back. I was spending an immeasurable amount of both mental and emotional energy on this one task. Fragile from rejection, drained from the facade, anxious awaiting interaction…it was all too much. Impatient with the process, I decided to sleep with him. I thought I had it all figured out. Truth is, it was just impulsivity and an emotionally dictated attitude that led me to make that decision. So when I found out that things weren’t the way I thought they were or really what I wanted them to be I was hurt and confused, but more than anything I was disappointed that I compromised myself. It was I, not anyone else who convinced myself that the love of another was more gratifying than the love I had for myself. When I stopped blaming him and started making it about me, my feelings for him changed and I began to see things clearer almost instantly. When I let go of trying to have control over it, it stopped having control over me. It wasn’t worthy of a celebration. No money spent on a new outfit or a night out with my girls. It was more like the satisfaction you get from crossing something off a list, or beating a difficult level in one of those games we get so caught up in. The emotional freedom was an accomplishment that I had to work hard for, I must add. But there was more to be done, life was continuing. I wasn’t a new woman. I was just an updated version of myself. Our ending didn’t define me any more than our beginning had. This was just another obstacle that the universe had put in my path.”
Sarahn Says – Usually we make decisions because for whatever reason, at that moment we think that’s the best decision to make. But sometimes we make decisions even though we know they’re not the best because the desire to do whatever it is, is at that moment stronger than the fear of the consequences. You know, you didn’t sleep with him because you thought it was the best decision. You did it because you weren’t afraid of what might happen afterwards. But, fear definitely played a part somewhere. Maybe it was the fear to acknowledge the desperation. Fear of the lies, fear of the truth? Or the fear of being powerless, in your unknown awaiting solitude.
It’s the fear that blinds us. It blinds us from remembering the mistakes we’ve made in the past. It blinds us from seeing all that we have and all that we’ve worked for. Fear rejects the answers we’ve already received to the questions we’ve already asked. Fear is doubting the faith already instilled. So be not afraid of the future ,the unseen and the unknown. Be afraid instead of forgetting what God has already given you, what the universe has already shown you, and where your journey has already brought you. #sarahnsays